Christmas and New Year thankfully signals holiday time for many of us. After a few hectic weeks, we are ready to relax and recharge.
Well at least a high number of us are anyway.
It’s the time of year that I often hear people complaining how hard the year has been and as they condemn the year just past as a “bad” year, they hold high hopes that the following year will be different.
Here’s the thing though, while we are focusing on the not so great things that have happened in the year just past and labeling it as a “hard” or “bad” year or any other negative descriptor that comes to mind, then we are quite likely to experience similar in the year to come.
You’ve possibly heard this concept described as quantum physics, which is true. I also want to let you know it’s the way our mind works.
There is a part of our brain that filters information according to experiences we’ve had and what we are focusing on. This means, if we are focusing on things we don’t want to experience again, then we will notice it more and can recreate it without even realizing.
I think it was Tony Robbins who said, “What you focus on is what you get” and this is one of the key reasons people get in their own way!
So how can you prepare yourself well to bring in the year you want?
Well, there are a number of ways to do this and I did think about writing a great article on vision or goal setting this month. But the thing is, if your mind isn’t prepared for this first your goals won’t have the same effect.
So this is about first changing your mindset.
Look for the good in the year just past
There are always good times even when we believe we’ve had a “bad” or “hard” year. The more good times we notice, no matter how insignificant we initially feel they are, the more opportunity we are giving ourselves to experience more. So pull out a notebook and spend some time reflecting back over your year, write down as many good times, highlights and achievements you can think of and be thankful for them. As you start to write them down, you will notice it’s easier to think of more.
Look for the lessons
Every challenge has some kind of gift or lesson attached to it, even if it’s just that we’ve become stronger. This isn’t about minimizing what we’ve been through, because some challenges are huge, and I totally understand the feelings associated with them. It’s about looking for what we can take from them in a positive way. So look for the lesson or gift in the challenges you have had during the year and notice how your feelings around them start to change.
The space of gratitude is the best space to write goals from, because a positive state gives us maximum opportunity to achieve them. So before you begin to write your goals for the New Year, pull out that notebook again and write down all the experiences, people, events, lessons and things in your life you are grateful for. Say thank you and really allow yourself to feel that feeling of appreciation for everything you have received during the year.
At the end of the day, our mindset is key in everything we do or don’t do. And whether you believe you’ve had a “good” year or a “bad” year, this process works effectively. I encourage you to work through it, because it will arm you with the information, resources and mindset to help you make 2019 your best.
Mindset and NLP Coach
CBWC Sole Entrepreneur of the Year
Finalist 2016 and 2017